Communication is one of the key components of any successful relationship. While most people know that, it doesn’t mean communicating with your partner is always easy. It also doesn’t mean the communication habits in your relationship are always healthy.
Thankfully, there are things you can do to improve your communication as a couple. By making healthy communication a priority in your relationship, you’ll create a more secure attachment, more intimacy, and a stronger connection that helps you get through any challenge you might face together.
With that in mind, let’s cover five communication tips you can start putting into practice right away.
1. Use “I” Statements
If you want to talk to your partner about a specific issue, make sure you address the problem using “I” statements. When you use “you” statements, you’re essentially placing the blame on them, whether you realize it or not.
That can lead to defensiveness. Before long, a simple conversation to address an issue can turn into an argument. Talk about how you feel, rather than suggesting your partner is doing something wrong right away.
2. Don’t Wait Until There’s a Problem
One of the biggest mistakes couples make is waiting until there’s an issue in the relationship to have a lengthy conversation. Communication should be a priority at all times. If you only have casual conversations with your partner or don’t make time to actively communicate, you’re doing more harm than good.
It can be hard to make time to talk in today’s busy world. However, scheduling that time every day can make a big difference in the strength of your bond, and you can work through any issues that could eventually become bigger problems before they get out of hand.
3. Understand Your Partner’s Point of View
Whether you’re dealing with a problem or just having a healthy conversation, it’s always a good rule of thumb to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Remember that your partner isn’t a carbon copy of you. Your differences are what makes your relationship work. But, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t attempt to understand where they’re coming from. Understanding their point of view can make it easier to work through your differences, create compromises, and get through disagreements effectively.
4. Check-In Throughout the Day
While committing to things like a half-hour conversation every night is great, you don’t have to wait to talk to your partner throughout the day. Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected. Consider sending your partner notes or texts throughout the day just to let them know you’re thinking about them. Call them on your lunch break, or start your day together with a cup of coffee and conversation. These small moments are more meaningful than you might think, and they’ll establish a firm foundation of communication, so the heavier conversations are easier to get through.
5. Remember You’re On the Same Team
No matter what, it’s essential to remind yourself that you and your partner want the same things. You might have different ideas about how to achieve them. You might even disagree on 90% of things. However, there’s a reason you’re together. Remembering that you’re on the same team will shift your perspective when facing challenges. Instead of feeling like your partner is the “enemy,” you’ll stay focused on the fact that they’re on your side. That can completely change the way you talk to each other.
Communication in relationships isn’t always easy. With dedication and effort, you can continuously improve communication in your relationship and feel closer to your partner than ever. If you’re still struggling, even after implementing these tips, feel free to contact me to set up an appointment.